Looking back at my teenage years there are many things that I would change if I knew then what I know now. However, I would never want to do those years over again. So much awkwardness, anxiety, fear, dread, and worry were a part of my life in those years and I would never want to go through those battles again. However, If I was writing a letter to my teen self, there are a few things that I would want that person to know.Dear Melissa,
Just a few things I want to share with you from the future. Aside from “don’t wear that outfit, it will look terrible” and “don’t eat that because you will get sick”, there are a few things that I would like you to know.
1st – Look at the big picture.
Take care of your skin because you will be living with it the rest of your life. Don’t just try to cover the acne with makeup, treat it. Your future face will thank you. Save up your money and buy some quality products that will treat your skin kinder than some of the cheap stuff. Ask your mom what she uses and how she cares for her face and take her advice. Take care of your body because the things you put in it and on it now, will affect the way it looks and feels later in life. Take care of your spiritual walk with Christ because things that happen in the future will rely on the way the relationship was built in the beginning.
2nd – Don’t worry so much about your appearance.
You don’t need to look your best for a boy. Let your appearance reflect the personality of Christ. Let it show Christ to the world. Look modest, put together, and always wear a smile. In time God will send a wonderful man who will love you inside and out. He will love you on your worst days when you think you are unlovable. He will be who God wants for you and you won’t have wasted time on shallow relationships.
3rd – Friends will come and go, but family is for a lifetime.
Spend more time cultivating your relationships with your family members. When you are an adult, you will have one friend maybe two that still keep in touch. Your most lasting friendships will develop in adulthood. Don’t spend all of your time working on those relationships. These relationships that promise forever friendship, but will forget about you the moment you move away, or get married, or even go to a different school. Yes, friends are important and you can learn life lessons from each and every friendship, but your family will be in your life forever. Spend time talking to your parents and gathering their wisdom. Spend time with your brothers in whatever capacity they can stand you to be around. 🙂 Spend time talking to and encouraging your sister. Each of these relationships will be more important in your life than fleeting friendships. When you become an adult, if you have not cultivated family relationships, you will long for the days when your family was all around you and you could fix it. You may not believe me, but it is true.
4th – Enjoy!
Enjoy being under the caring umbrella of your parents authority. Enjoy living carefree not worried about a place to live or something to eat or how you are going to provide your children’s needs. Enjoy growing in you knowledge of the Lord before you are responsible for helping someone else to grow spiritually. Enjoy letting the Lord shape you into the woman that you will someday be.
What about you? Is there something you would share with your teenage self, if you could? Let me know in the comments. 🙂
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